She is the pretty blond on the right. ( i know, they are all blonde and pretty, yes even Wade. But obviously I am talking about the mom in the picture) Introducing Katelyn, Tessa, Wade Hunt, previously of the Pagedale branch in saint louis.
Ok, Well settle in for a long story cause "Ricky" says i have some esplaining to do....
I first meet the Hunts at the pagedale branch about 3 years ago. I hate Katelyn at first sight. She is gorgeous, skinny, and has awesome fashion sense. All good reasons to hate her right? Well being the jealous creature i am, i didnt really talk to her the first six months. I felt awkward and bumbly. It was just easier to not make eye contact.... Then i was pulled in to the Yw program that she headed. Once i had to actually get to know her, I couldnt do much more than love her. She was all that i mentioned above, but what you couldnt actually see till you got to know her, was her spirit. She is amazing, loving, kind, classy, just the kind of person you would love to hate, but you just cant.
Of course then she left. The program crumpled (in my opinion) and the girls lashed out. We had a few unsuccessful presidencies after she left. Not that there was anything wrong with them or the youth, but just that there wasnt any melding. I have been a part of the program for the last 3 years going on four soon...... I never had a real integral part, but i was a constant constant, if you know what i mean. I finally got called to be the YW president and i was scared to say the least. I knew what had worked (katelyn) and what hadnt(everything else) and those were big shoes to fill even if she wears a size 5.
so this last year as president, the girls and i have been making great strides in overcoming the issues we had in the program. The girls have been excelling, maturing, just stepping it up. I cant take the credit. I am sure they would be this way without me. I can say that i try to project Katelyn's image. Now i am not skinny, white, blonde or wonderful like katelyn, but i do try to encompass the girls and protect them, help them to feel safe and open up like she has done. And so far i think it has worked. I have 2 women in mind when i am the YWpresident, Katelyn Hunt and Becky Rahm (stake Yw president), both are amazing women.
anyway back to the reason of the post, the background has been filled in, now onto channeling KH. Okay recently, i have been under personal (at least it has felt that way) attack by a member in my program. Originally it started as simple issues. Not teaching, not showing up, etc. Then it went to more core issues, that conflicted with the program i was providing for my young women. The parts of the program that were clearly april williams, and in my court. Which of course offended me. When confronted and told that i wasnt doing enough, i took a deep breath, sat up straight and channeled KH. In a very nice, polite tone, i told the member i was sorry they felt that way, and yadda yada yada. Case closed right?
Wrong, after that meeting, i have felt at odds with this member because they are part of the YW program. Instead of making snarky, sarcastic comments that are totally me, i have been gracious and polite. Inside its been difficult to be nice to someone who clearly paints me as the issue. so i have been skirting around it, just trying to keep it professional.
then last week i was verbally attacked again. This time not as the YW president, but as a helpful person, yes it was the same member. I took it personally and instead of allowing my texan fighting nature out, i channeled KH again. Breathed in and reminded myself, that even if she is in my car and being unbelievably rude to me when i am just trying to help....I am the YW president and must conduct myself as such. In went feisty bad mouthed april, out went KH (or the KH i believe would have responded, heck for all i know KH may have slapped the girl for her impertinence but, i chose to believe KH would have responded even toned, polite even! )
Now i might not have felt good about taking it nicely, but i did feel good that i didnt lower myself. It could have gotten a bit like Jerry Springer in my car had it not been for KH. I got an apology a few days later. This time i did not channel Katelyn. Sadly i just ignored the apology. I am still mad, and licking my wounds, plotting my revenge, which i am sure Katelyn would not do...... I have a lot to learn from my friend, Mrs. Hunt. But knowing her forgiving nature, i know she will forgive me for being me, and for channeling her! :)
wish me luck as this problem has not gone away.

I'll channel someone... Tell me who it is and I'll beat her up. ;-)
ReplyDeleteI think you are learning and growing a lot from your calling. You are awesome!
wow April...I could learn a lot from you. I think you have taken a lot on while YW president and I think that no one can know what it's like until they fill those shoes. I wish I could help take some of the load, I miss you guys. It is looking more and more like we will be staying here. We are liking it better and I would be fine if we did end up here for a little while. You are awesome...it seems like life is sometimes just a day at a time endeavor. Wish you the best...call if you need to vent...and by the way, if you see that I don't respond on IM, it's because the boys are playing and don't know what to do. Sorry I missed you the other day.
ReplyDeleteAlso, your picture at the top rocks! it is soooo cute! you guys look great!
I love you. I too, would like to channel the person you just described, you were far too kind and gracious. Oh, the things I learned serving in that calling, so many things about myself. It sounds like you are doing the same. I think it just comes with the territory if you are serving sincerely. You will find, if you haven't already, that you will stretch and grow in a way you didn't even know could stretch. You will grow in a capacity you didn't know you could grow. Exhibit A: being gracious and patient while being criticized unfairly. You perhaps remember when a similar situation happened to me while serving in that calling. I was so devastated. You put so much time, thought, effort and heart into that work and feel like you're making great strides, only to have those you respect criticize you. Ugh, it's just devastating. But we pick ourselves up, dust ourselves off and start all over again. We continue to do what we know is right. (which may include sticking up for yourself, graciously of course. and/or hiring someone to beat someone else up. i could think of a few you could hire off the top of my head) You are brilliant and you are blessing young girls lives. Keep truckin'. I adore you.
ReplyDeletePS-LOVE the new family photo! LOVE IT! How cute are you guys!?